Sometimes the biggest enemy to ourselves is... ourselves.. we can be our harshest critic, cruelest tormentor, strongest bully... why, maybe because the person who truly knows who we are.. is ourselves.. circular argument do i do realize, but do bear with me for a moment...
We all have challenges to face, our crosses to bear.. but its the way we face up to these challenges is what defines us as individuals.. i know i do realize i sound like a rip-off a comic book, but think about it.. we mere humans do not face extraordinary decisions or choices on a day-to-day basis, we all face the same issues, really.. whether it be choices about our work, morals, values, love, children, the options are endless, we all go through the same things.. and no matter how many people we ask, how much advise we seek, we end up taking a choice not based on the public/private polls we have taken.. oh no, we take that choice all on our own judgment.. at the end of the day, whatever decision we take, we cannot blame anyone for it, but ourselves..
For example, smoking in highschool. Everyone did it, at one point or the other. But no one puts that cigarette in your mouth except your own hand. You can always say no and walk away.. but the smell of the smoke, the coolness of it all.. those are all superficial attractions, but at the end of the day, you make that decision to take that puff..
Of course, we all have the voices in our head - the angel and the demon that seems to guide us along our way... and there's a third voice - our own that seems to balance all these conversations.. I am sure if a psychologist heard me, he/she would think I need some medication and I am sure I would need some, but I truly believe thats the case..
Talking about decisions, whoever said every choice is a "yes or no" decision was clearly off his head and THAT is a person who needs medication... most choices are gray areas.. For example, I have a friend who's single but is having a relationship with a married woman. He loves her, loves her kids.. but knows she won't ever leave her husband to be with him because he is not financially stable.. He wants her, and knows she loves him too but he doesn't know what to do. Others in this situation would think, "Pathetic man, he can easily find another girl, who has less issues and settle down" but for him, this is a huge decision.
No one can judge another person's situation, for that person, it could be a big deal but for another, it could just be just another day. That's why I say, we are our own worst critic..
Like I mentioned in a previous post, we weave our own destiny, in the quilt called Life. Every choice leads us to another fork and the decisions we make or take will lead us to another place and another, and we continue going. But whether we make the right choices, or wrong, is truly up to us and how we react and deal with it. And hopefully we will be able to live with ourselves after making that choice.
I will survive - Enrique Iglesias
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